Such an eloquent summation of why being pilot often feels so trite and insincere. I hadn’t quite thought about the manner in which someone speaks to injustice. How others shut them down as soon as their emotions get involved. We don’t like emotional people here in the US either. But it’s wild to think that someone could stand up to racism or prejudice or constantly take a beating from it without feeling very strong emotions. When did we all fall so completely inept at handling true feelings, true thoughts? Is it just a colonizer’s mindset that has learned to see the early warning signs of control collapse in disgruntled customers and has the instinct to immediately shut it down? I’m curious which manners you’re encouraging in your kids and which ones you’re replacing with honesty and truth.
Thanks for reading and for this really thoughtful reply!
It's so hard raising kids, especially in 2025. I have two daughters, ten years apart, and I've taught them both to be grateful and kind, to stand up for themselves and for others, but to understand that doing so is hard, and it takes a lot out of you. So, you have to choose your battles, and also learn how to rest and restore those parts of yourself that get beaten into submission out there in the world.
I think I've focused more on teaching them how to value themselves within systems that don't value them?
Also, I have encouraged them to live in a focused way. Yes, understand the world and the injustices, but don't obsessively read news, scroll, fill your mind and heart with horrors every day. And I think that makes it easier to face the things that you meet head on in life. There's a bit more energy for it?
They also learn from a mother who has incredible energy for speaking up, but who is learning now, finally, at the age of 41, how to look after herself. So hopefully I am teaching them that important balance too.
I also think everyone needs to get therapy ;) I find people very reactive and defensive and that egos are just constantly engaged. There's a lot of entitlement too. I think all of that (and more) is why many people find truth so unpalatable.
Such an eloquent summation of why being pilot often feels so trite and insincere. I hadn’t quite thought about the manner in which someone speaks to injustice. How others shut them down as soon as their emotions get involved. We don’t like emotional people here in the US either. But it’s wild to think that someone could stand up to racism or prejudice or constantly take a beating from it without feeling very strong emotions. When did we all fall so completely inept at handling true feelings, true thoughts? Is it just a colonizer’s mindset that has learned to see the early warning signs of control collapse in disgruntled customers and has the instinct to immediately shut it down? I’m curious which manners you’re encouraging in your kids and which ones you’re replacing with honesty and truth.
Thanks for reading and for this really thoughtful reply!
It's so hard raising kids, especially in 2025. I have two daughters, ten years apart, and I've taught them both to be grateful and kind, to stand up for themselves and for others, but to understand that doing so is hard, and it takes a lot out of you. So, you have to choose your battles, and also learn how to rest and restore those parts of yourself that get beaten into submission out there in the world.
I think I've focused more on teaching them how to value themselves within systems that don't value them?
Also, I have encouraged them to live in a focused way. Yes, understand the world and the injustices, but don't obsessively read news, scroll, fill your mind and heart with horrors every day. And I think that makes it easier to face the things that you meet head on in life. There's a bit more energy for it?
They also learn from a mother who has incredible energy for speaking up, but who is learning now, finally, at the age of 41, how to look after herself. So hopefully I am teaching them that important balance too.
I also think everyone needs to get therapy ;) I find people very reactive and defensive and that egos are just constantly engaged. There's a lot of entitlement too. I think all of that (and more) is why many people find truth so unpalatable.